Bella M. DePaulo

Bella DePaulo

A close-up examination and exploration, How We Live Now challenges our old concepts of what it means to be a family and have a home, opening the door to the many diverse and thriving experiments of living in twenty-first century America. Across America and around the world, in cities and suburbs and small towns, people from all walks of life are redefining our “lifespaces”—the way we live and who we live with. The traditional nuclear family in their single-family home on a suburban lot has lost its place of prominence in contemporary life. Today, Americans have more choices than ever before in creating new ways to live and meet their personal needs and desires. Social scientist, researcher, and writer Bella DePaulo has traveled across America to interview people experimenting with the paradigm of how we live. In How We Live Now, she explores everything from multi-generational homes to cohousing communities where one’s “family” is made up of friends and neighbors to couples “living apart together” to single-living, and ultimately uncovers a pioneering landscape for living that throws the old blueprint out the window. Through personal interviews and stories, media accounts, and in-depth research, How We Live Now explores thriving lifespaces, and offers the reader choices that are freer, more diverse, and more attuned to our modern needs for the twenty-first century and beyond.

Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century

How We Live Now

From acclaimed social scientist Dr. Bella DePaulo, the leading expert on single life, comes groundbreaking, comprehensive confirmation that a powerful, healthy, happy life is possible not in spite of being single, but because of it. All too often society issues dire warnings about the risks of living single. But is finding a spouse or romantic partner really a requirement for a full life? In Single at Heart, Dr. Bella DePaulo speaks on behalf of the millions of people across the globe who are powerfully drawn to single life for all it has to offer and shares what it means to not just be happy being single for a time, but to be happy being single always. This pivotal volume addresses misconceptions about single life head on, spotlighting, celebrating, and supporting those who plan to stay single and sharing research, case studies, anecdotal examples, and more to help family members and friends understand. In richly engaging, evidence-based text, Dr. DePaulo—a Harvard-educated professor and researcher whose Ted Talk on the appeal of staying single has had more that 1.6 million views—supports readers of all genders, ages, and backgrounds who are Single at Heart and advises on topics as diverse as solitude, freedom, intimacy, children, and societal pressure. For Dr. DePaulo, her understanding of herself as Single at Heart provided strength, time, confidence, power, authenticity, deep fulfillment, and more. In Single at Heart she shares what she’s learned as well as the stories of others, in the process inspiring and fueling a movement of people standing up for what is right for them and thriving because of it.

The Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy of Single Life

Single at Heart

Bella DePaulo (Ph.D, Harvard) has been writing about single life for well over a decade, beginning with her myth-shattering book, "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After." This collection includes some of her most popular and empowering writings from her "Living Single" blog at Psychology Today as well as other articles readers have loved. The book includes 8 sections:1. Why Singles Are Thriving - Despite All You've Heard to the Contrary2. Single Life: We Chose It3. Mocking Those 'Why Are You Single' Lists4. The Good Life and the Successful Life5. Savoring Our Solitude: Choosing to Spend Time Alone6. Valuing Our Relationships: Choosing to Spend Time with Others7. Sex and the Single Person: Have It Your Way - or Just Skip It8. Are We Missing Out by Being Single - or Are They? Among the 65 articles in the book are:* 7 secrets of successful single people* Who wrote the book of love? Happy single people* Fear not: The advantages of people unafraid to be single* Are single people more resilient than everyone else?* Why aren't married people any happier than singles? A Nobel Prize winner's answer* Wedding porn doesn't turn us on: Age at first marriage has never been higher* The last 'why are you single' list you will ever need* Elements of the good life: Our list is too short* Sweet solitude: The benefits it brings and the special strengths of the people who enjoy it* The happy loner* Best things about living alone - for people who mean it* Single, no children: Who's your family?* If you are single, will you grow old alone? Results from 6 nations* Who keeps siblings together when they become adults? * Bigger, broader meanings of love and romance* Getting married and getting sex (or not)* Asexuals: Who are they and why are they important? * Are monogamous relationships really better?* 23 ways singles are better* What you miss by doing what everyone else does* Top 8 reasons not to marry* Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart* How many married people wish they were single?* The end of marriage

The Best of Single Life

This book is a collection of 29 of the most popular blog posts and chapters on deception written by Dr. Bella DePaulo, one of the world's leading experts on the psychology of lying and detecting lies. Drawing from research - much of it her own - Professor DePaulo helps us understand big-time liars as well as the more ordinary liars in our everyday lives. Want to know what science has to say about detecting deception? There are 7 short chapters on that. Another 9 chapters explore the dynamics of deceit in our interactions with our romantic partners, friends, and family. Regardless of what you think you already know about deception, you will undoubtedly learn something new and surprising from this book. CONTENTS. I.FIRST, SOME TRUTHS ABOUT LIES 1.6 truths about lies 2.Why do people lie to you? II.PROFILES OF ORDINARY LIARS 3.Who lies? 4.Men or women: Who lies more? III.BIG-TIME LIARS 5.How ordinary people become extraordinary liars 6.Big-time liars: Top 7 lies they tell themselves 7.How President Trump's lies are different from other people's 8.For writing about President Trump's lies, I got called an "ugly witch" and more 9.Deception: It's what Dexter does best (well, second best) 10.Getting suckered by a killer IV.FIGURING OUT WHEN YOU ARE GETTING DUPED 11.Looks can kill - your better judgment 12.Why are we so bad at detecting lies? 13.How body language lets us down 14.Unconscious, gut-level lie detection? 15.Can't keep your story straight: Maybe not such a great cue to deception after all 16.If you watch 'Lie to Me, ' will you become more successful at detecting lies? 17.Suppose you could know exactly what other people were thinking and feeling: Would you want to? V.LYING AND DETECTING LIES IN RELATIONSHIPS (AND NOT JUST ROMANTIC ONES) 18.Do relationships need lies to survive? 19.Infidelity: Who are the real cheaters? 20.Spotting a cheater: How long do you have to know a person before you can do it accurately? 21.Manti Te'o and the revenge of the romantic fantasy 22.When you are the last to know you've been duped 23.Friends and lovers: Is there a 'knew it all along' effect? 24.What friends know that others don't 25.The power and peril of hurt feelings VI.LYING AND DETECTING LIES IN SPECIAL CONTEXTS 26.Do audio-only press briefings make it easier to mislead? 27.Airport screening post-9/11 - what happens before you even get to any of the machines 28.Can a computer tell when you are lying? 29.Accused of doing something awful? Here's how to convince others of your innocence

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