Pam Vredevelt

Dr. Steve Stephens

Hope and Healing Are at Hand Extraordinary emotional pain cries out for something more than a Band-Aid, a pat on the shoulder, or a greeting card cliché. When the wounds go deep, real help, honest encouragement, and tangible healing may be hard to locate. But it is there to find, and the search is worth the effort. Compassionate and experienced counselors Dr. Steve Stephens and Pam Vredevelt, LPC, have walked alongside women in pain for years—they’ve heard the stories, seen the tears, felt the pain, and entered into the devastation. They’ve also seen how wounded women can step out of darkness into hope, regain their feet, restart their lives, recover their energy, and even reclaim their joy. Real-life stories and proven, practical counsel serve as powerful tools to help you recover from past and present wounds, moving you into a new season of productive living. Hope Is Here “My pain is too deep for a Band-Aid.” “Will this heartache ever end?” “Why me?” Today is your day…a fresh season of living has arrived. Coming alongside as faithful friends, Dr. Steve Stephens and Pam Vredevelt meet you in the depths of your circumstances and uncover the pathway to healing. They offer an opportunity to regain your feet, restart your life, recover your energy, and reclaim your joy. These real-life testimonies and proven, practical counsel will guide you toward complete recovery and inspire you to press forward in newfound strength—not in spite of your wounds, but because of them. “I believe this is one of the most important books ever written for women. Every page is filled with nurturing wisdom and refreshing hope. At last, for every wounded woman, there is a pathway out of the hurt and pain.” -Alice Gray, author of Treasures for Women Who Hope, coauthor of The Worn Out Woman and The Walk Out Woman Story Behind the Book The authors are licensed therapists who see an enormous number of women struggling with the same basic issue: wounds that result from living in an imperfect world with imperfect people. “Some are great at hiding their wounds,” they say. “Others are so overwhelmed by them that they are unable to recover and bounce back. We consistently meet women with incredible potential who are stuck in emotional pain. Unable to move forward, their wounds block them from becoming all they can be. We want to help them work through the process of letting go of this pain and progress in healing. The abundant life Jesus promises will be theirs!”

Hope and Healing for Those Who Hurt

The Wounded Woman

Conquering and Victorious Bloodied, beaten, and broken: words associated with the battlefield. Words that spell “defeat,” but actually mean strength and courage. Because in order to get the wounds, you must first enlist in the battle. This book is for every man who has boldly said to life, “I’m in,” only to come up against inevitable trials and tribulations. The death of a loved one, broken promises, unexpected health problems, a business deal gone bad. The Wounded Warrior takes into account the lasting effects of these gut-wrenching blows…as well as less-often recognized sources of pain. Licensed psychologist Dr. Steve Stephens speaks man-to-man in this powerful book that will free you to become the victor God created you to be. Brave Men Bear Real Wounds Beneath your armor, you may be bloodied, beaten, or broken. Where there was once courage and confidence, you now harbor heartache and pain. Life—in all its glory—has taken its toll. But this is not the end. It is where healing starts and life begins. Dr. Steve Stephens speaks man-to-man about all kinds of wounds from the subtle burden of living with nagging regrets, to gut-wrenching blows that include: a divorce the death of a loved one a business deal gone bad betrayal by a trusted friend wounds from family members, and other devastating trials. More than encouragement and guidance, The Wounded Warrior is packed with pointed questions, scriptural teachings, and honest talk about practical solutions. It’s time to move forward…and live once again! Story Behind the Book “After speaking on The Wounded Woman , some guys asked me, ‘What about us?’ I was taken aback and asked, ‘What do you mean?’ ‘Life is hard,’ one of them said. ‘People are cruel. As guys, we get beat up, and nobody addresses our wounds. Help us deal with the pain of getting shot down.’ Over the next month, I couldn’t get this conversation out of my mind. Every day I ran into some wounded warrior: a father facing the death of his son, a husband stunned by the unfaithfulness of his wife, a brother betrayed by a brother. Finally, I recognized I had to write something to encourage us guys.”—Dr. Steve Stephens

A Survival Guide for When You're Beat Up, Burned Out, or Battle Weary

The Wounded Warrior

“Help!” “He Doesn’t Get What I’m Not Saying!” “She Doesn’t Say What She Means!” Every marriage faces communication problems–whether about sex, vacation, careers, children, or the remote control. Why do guys often feel clueless, no matter how hard they try? Why do women get so tired of dropping hints that they snap? How can something that started out so good, end up so frustating? Licensed psychologist Dr. Steve Stephens says that communication between genders is truly a cross-cultural experience. The key to communicating well is learning how to interpret the vocabulary, body language, silences, and needs of your spouse–which may be quite different from yours. Using practical insights from his own two decades of marriage and his twenty-five years as a professional counselor, Dr. Stephens uncovers the differences in communication that lead to relationship breakdown. With a fun and exciting look at the reasons behind marital frustrations, he offers a solution so simple, with results so extraordinary, that you will delight to know what your spouse is really saying–and learn how true communication can change your marriage forever.

How Men and Women Can Understand Each Other

Lost in Translation

Alice Gray

For the growing number of women who want to drop out because they are stressed out, this easy read provides practical solutions. Women can immediately apply these tools and strategies for limiting commitments, identifying gifts, dealing with emotions, nurturing the spirit, burying anxieties, facing the past, celebrating accomplishments, developing a support network, and protecting dreams. The Worn-Out Woman will help the reader trade in a life of running on empty for a life that is meaningful and fulfilling. She will find and recapture her passion, finally realizing the great potential God gave her. You’ve come a long way...maybe. “Most days I feel overwhelmed.” “I want to run away and start over.” “The joy and excitement are gone.” There are more than 60 million worn-out women in the U.S. today. If you’re among them, this book will be like a retreat for your soul. One short chapter at a time, you’ll find simple steps to bring back the joy and energy of a rich life. What’s more, you’ll finally understand and learn to manage the sources of your exhaustion—perfectionism, guilt, unrealistic expectations, and difficult people—in a healthy way. Story Behind the Book We have written this book because it will provide the worn out women of today’s society with practical solutions to those who want to drop out because they are stressed out. Although some of you will look for quick checklists… wanting to jump to the “just let me unclutter my life” sections… we know the value of uncluttering you heart first. For that reason, we’ve included chapters for all areas of your life—emotional, mental, social, physical and spiritual. Most other books focus on learning to say no, simplifying your lifestyle, organization, and nurturing your spirit. Our book is unique because it includes all of these but also covers solutions for the root causes of why women do too much.

When Life is Full and Your Spirit is Empty

The Worn Out Woman

Every woman longs to be appreciated, respected, and adored, but when her needs aren’t met within her marriage, she could be tempted to walk away. As little hurts and disappointments accumulate and her heart hardens, a woman’s loneliness and vulnerability take over, and she might find emotional fulfillment elsewhere, perhaps in even a casual encounter with another man. When the marriage enters this realm of real danger, the woman believes it will be less painful to walk away than try to work on it. With heart and wisdom, Dr. Steve Stephens and Alice Gray offer practical advice for how to stop this epidemic of walk-out women. They outline the warning signs of severe marital discontent and share how to reconnect with your spouse, communicate your hurt, and open your heart. If both partners are willing to work at it, any marriage can be saved. Are You Even Thinking About Walking Out? “I’m at the point where I don’t think it is worth the effort anymore.” “The only reason I’m staying is because of the children.” “Surely God doesn’t want me to be this unhappy.” Every woman longs to be appreciated, valued, and cared for. When these needs go unmet, she may be tempted to leave the husband she once loved—but walking out is seldom the path to happiness. Like trusted friends, Dr. Steve Stephens and Alice Gray offer wise and gentle advice to restore hope to your marriage. You’ll discover proven methods for how you can move toward each other rather than away, build up instead of tear down, and find love rather than lose it. Story Behind the Book Although a growing number of women are walking away from their marriages, there are no books to help them realize that this is not the path to happiness. A woman’s discontentment settles like dust on furniture, and although she tries, she fails to make her husband understand. His responses seem too little and too late. Many women mistakenly believe it is easier emotionally to leave the marriage than try to restore it. We want a woman to realize that even when her heart seems closed to her husband, there is a way to open it and become one again. Loss of love does not equal loss of marriage. Loss of hope does not mean the relationship should be abandoned.

Dr. Steve Stephens

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