Kate Murphy

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? "If you’re like most people, you don’t listen as often or as well as you’d like. There’s no one better qualified than a talented journalist to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset—and this book does it with science and humor." -Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take "An essential book for our times." -Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We’re not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.

What You're Missing and Why It Matters

You're Not Listening

»Ich war nur kurz abgelenkt.« Viele Menschen halten sich für gute und empathische Zuhörer. Das ist ein Trugschluss – das Gegenteil ist der Fall. Wir sind viel zu sehr mit uns selbst beschäftigt, planen bereits im Voraus die nächsten Argumente, meinen, im Vorfeld zu wissen, was der Andere sagen will. Wir sind abgelenkt durch ständige Erreichbarkeit auf allen Kanälen, die unterschiedlich bedient werden wollen, durch Multitasking und den beschleunigten Puls der ganzen Gesellschaft. Die vermeintlich simple und passive Tätigkeit des Zuhörens haben wir verlernt. Was das für uns, unsere Familie und unser Miteinander bedeutet und wie wir wieder zurück in den beidseitigen Dialog finden, erläutert die bekannte Wissenschaftsredakteurin Kate Murphy auf anschauliche Weise.

Warum wir einander endlich zuhören müssen

Immer auf Sendung ... nie auf Empfang

Che cosa ti perdi se non ascolti e perché è importante Sul lavoro ci insegnano a condurre una conversazione. Sui social creiamo a piacere la nostra personale narrazione. Durante una festa parliamo dandoci sulla voce. E lo stesso fanno i politici che ci governano. Noi non ascoltiamo E nessuno ascolta noi. Viviamo in un mondo in cui la tecnologia ci permette di comunicare costantemente e di restare sempre connessi, ma a quanto pare nessuno ascolta gli altri e nemmeno sembra capace di farlo. E questo ci rende più soli, più isolati e meno tolleranti. Kate Murphy, giornalista del New York Times e ascoltatrice di professione, vuole capire come siamo arrivati fin qui. In modo ironico e illuminante spiega perché non siamo più capaci di ascoltare, quali sono le conseguenze e come invertire il trend. Utilizza psicologia, neuroscienze e sociologia dell’ascolto e introduce i lettori ai migliori esempi di ascoltatori, compresi agenti della CIA, moderatori nei focus group, bartender, conduttori radiofonici e venditori. Equamente diviso fra osservazione culturale, esplorazione scientifica e call to action, L'arte di saper ascoltare dimostra in modo inequivocabile l’importanza di chiudere la bocca e aprire bene le orecchie per comprendere meglio e vivere meglio.

L'arte di saper ascoltare

When We Thought of War

Kunsten at lytte til andre – Sådan får du bedre relationer gennem bedre samtaler

Graeme Davison

From its beginnings Monash has been a 'university in a hurry.' Born on the suburban fringe of Melbourne, it reached outwards rather than gazing inwards. Over its five decades it embraced the challenges of the age of Sputnik, became a hotbed of student radicalism, then took an equally radical turn towards market capitalism to become Australia's largest and most international university, with branches in Italy, Malaysia and South Africa. Its movers and shakers included visionary vice-chancellor Louis Matheson, biologist and stirrer Jock Marshall, Australia's third woman professor Maureen Brunt, historian Ian Turner, student politicians Albert Langer and Peter Costello, writers Don Watson and David Williamson, IVF pioneer Carl Wood, philosopher Peter Singer, broadcaster Jon Faine, buccaneering vice-chancellor Mal Logan and his ill-fated successor, David Robinson. The Monash story shows how universities have transformed Australia since the 1960s. Based on extensive interviews with staff and students, and heavily illustrated, this is an engaging and candid portrait of a great Australian institution.

The Monash story

University Unlimited

We all know that Margaret Thatcher was Britain's first female Prime Minister, but who was the first woman: accused of witchcraft?; awarded the Order of Merit?; elected a member of the House of Commons?; convicted of murder?

The Livewire Book of British Women Achievers

Firsts

Fears and Fantasies: Modernity, Gender, and the RuralûUrban Divide explores the ways in which fantasies about returning to, or revitalising, rural life helped to define Western modernity in the early twentieth century. Scholarship addressing responses to modernity has focused on urban space and fears about the effects of city life; few studies have considered the 'rural' to he as critical as the 'urban' in understanding modernity. This book argues that the rural is just as significant a reference point as the urban in discourses about modernity. Using a rich Australian case study to illuminate broader international themes, it focuses on the role of gender in ideas about the rural-urban divide, showing how the country was held up against the 'unnatural' city as a space in which men were more 'masculine' and women more 'feminine'. Fears and Fantasies is an innovative and important contribution to scholarship in the fields of history and gender studies. 'Fears awl Fantasies is an illuminating and searching account of the many ways the idea of a rural-urban divide has shaped Australian culture. In situating 'rurality' as a fundamental aspect of Australian modernity and gender politics, Kate Murphy has rewritten key aspects of Australian cultural history in ways that excite and provoke highly recommended Stephen Garton, Professor of history and Provost and Deputy Vice-Chancellor, University of Sydney 'Full of insight and provocative reflection, this hook offers us new ways to think about the bush/city relationship in twentieth-century Australia and the New World. It challenges our assumptions about the experience of modernity and provides a compelling argument about the importance of rural life in shaping responses to the modern. A most important book-Katie Holmes, Associate Professor History Program, La Trobe University

Modernity, Gender and the Rural-urban Divide

Fears and Fantasies

Behind the Wireless tells the story of women at the BBC in the 1920s and 30s. Broadcasting was brand new in Britain and the BBC developed without many of the overt discriminatory practices commonplace at the time. Women were employed at all levels, except the very top, for instance as secretaries, documentary makers, advertising representatives, and librarians. Three women held Director level posts, Hilda Matheson (Director of Talks), Mary Somerville (Director of School Broadcasting), and Isa Benzie (Foreign Director). Women also produced the programmes aimed at female listeners and brought women broadcasters to the microphone. There was an ethos of equality and the chance to rise through the ranks from accounts clerk to accompanist. But lurking behind the façade of modernity were hidden inequalities in recruitment, pay, and promotion and in 1932 a marriage bar was introduced. Kate Murphy examines how and why the interwar BBC created new opportunities for women.

Kate Murphy

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