Terrence Real

A study of the hidden epidemic of male depression draws on case studies to examine the causes of the ailment and how men can heal themselves, repair relationships, and break the chain of depression

Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

I Don't Want to Talk About It

"What happened to the passion we started with? Why aren't we as close as we used to be?" PROBLEM: If you are a woman who is unfulfilled in your marriage...if you feel unheard or overburdened...if you quietly live in a state of slow-burn resentment... PROBLEM: If you are a man unhappy that your partner seems so unhappy with you...if you feel bewildered, unappreciated, or betrayed... This book offers a solution Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real -- drawing on his pioneering work on male depression -- gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised. Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, no other relationship book is as straight talking or compelling in its innovative approach to healing wounds and reconnecting partners with a new strength and understanding.

Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

How Can I Get Through to You?

A practicing therapist examines the phenomenon of modern-day marital relationships and offers an effective step-by-step plan to help women give their husbands what they need in order to receive the love that they want.

What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

The New Rules of Marriage

Bruce Springsteen

How Moving Relationships Beyond You and Me Creates More Love, Passion, and Understanding

The author of the bestseller "I Don't Want to Talk About It" analyzes the current crisis in intimate relations, and offers a radical new vision of love and the practical tools with which to achieve it.

Reconnecting Men and Women

Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and bestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage “This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important. At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In his transformative new book Us, Real brilliantly observes how our winner-takes-all culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that go nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living “alone together.” With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that’s based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness. Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin.

Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right! Women have changed in the last twenty-five years–they have become powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet many men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don’t know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up. Enter the good news: In this revolutionary book, Real shows women how to master the new rules of twenty-first-century marriage by offering them a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationship that they desire and deserve. He identifies five non-starters to avoid and shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationship. Using his experience helping thousands of couples shift from despair to profound emotional closeness, Real guides you through the process of relationship repair with exercises that you can do alone or with your partner. With this program you’ll discover how to - identify and articulate your wants and needs - listen well and respond generously - set limits, and stand up for yourself - embrace and appreciate what you have - know when to seek outside help The New Rules of Marriage will introduce you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based on the idea that every woman has the power to transform her marriage, while men, given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion. We have never wanted so much from our relationships as we do today. More than any other generation, we yearn for our mates to be lifelong friends and lovers. The New Rules of Marriage shows us how to fulfill this courageous and uncompromising new vision.

'The book that we all need' Esther Perel 'A road map for all of us who seek true intimacy' Gwyneth Paltrow 'A revolutionary guide to happy, thriving couplehood' Lori Gottlieb Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness-and there's also not much that's more important. At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counsellor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Us, Real shares his new science-backed skillset to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration and closeness. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of 'you' and 'me', or feel like you are living 'alone together', this book will show you the way back to 'us'.

Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship

Als je allebei in je eigen hoek van ‘jij’ en ‘ik’ staat, dan brengt dit boek je terug naar ‘wij’ Bijna niets is moeilijker dan uitzoeken hoe je van je partner kunt houden inclusief alle menselijke tekortkomingen, maar er is bijna niets belangrijkers dan dat. Relatietherapeut Terrence Real helpt veel stellen die op het punt staan om uit elkaar te gaan en ziet hoe groot de impact is van onze giftige, individualistische samenleving op relaties. Het goede nieuws is dat een warmere, hechtere, meer gepassioneerde relatie mogelijk is, als je maar over de juiste tools beschikt. In zijn boek beschrijft hij op heldere wijze hoe onze winner takes it all-cultuur een gezonde relatie in de weg kan staan; het zorgt voor herhaaldelijke ruzies die nergens toe leiden of voor een afstandelijke relatie waarin twee partners wel samen wónen, maar zich alleen voelen. Wij is een baanbrekend boek dat je nieuwe, wetenschappelijk onderbouwde vaar­digheden leert. Met wijze inzichten, humor en charme helpt Real je om je relatie te transformeren naar een van medeleven, samenwerking en nabijheid. Het helpt je om in de toekomst niet volgens je vastgeroeste patronen te reageren maar gebruik te maken van de wijzere, meer samenwerkende versie van jezelf. Daarnaast deelt Real verhalen uit zijn praktijk van stellen waarvan hun relatie gered is door deze nieuwe inzichten en technieken. ‘Een mooi en belangrijk boek, vooral voor het moment waarop we ons nu bevinden.’ Bruce Springsteen ‘Dit boek is een routekaart voor iedereen die op zoek is naar echte intimiteit.’ Gwyneth Paltrow ‘Terrence Real duikt met precisie en wijsheid in de dynamiek van moderne relaties. Zijn werk heeft simpelweg mijn leven veranderd. Lees dit boek. Het zou het jouwe ook kunnen veranderen.’ Bradley Cooper ‘Als ik advies nodig heb, bel ik Terry Real. Dit is het boek dat we allemaal moeten lezen om gezondere en intiemere connecties te creëren.’ Esther Perel Terrence Real is een succesvolle Amerikaanse relatietherapeut en New York Times-bestsellerauteur. Hij richtte het Relational Life Institute op, dat workshops aanbiedt voor stellen, individuen en ouders. Daarnaast heeft hij een professioneel trainingsprogramma voor artsen en therapeuten ontwikkeld.

Hoe we 'jij & ik' kunnen overstijgen voor meer liefde en verbinding

Lilo Leeds

Gerard Leeds

Have you ever seen a couple who seems to know a secret? They hold hands, laugh often, seem connected with one another. Have you ever wished you and your spouse could have what they have? In today's society, it's easy to get discouraged about marriage. But it is possible to be a part of a happy couple instead of always in awe of them. Lilo and Gerry Leeds have been married for 57 years and they know what it takes to not only make a marriage work but to live together—happily. In Wonderful Marriage: A Guide to Building A Great Relationship That Will Last a Lifetime, the Leeds discuss sex, communication, dating, finances, children, health, religion, arguing, honeymooning and many other critical relationship issues. This is not a conservative or old-fashioned guide to landing a spouse but a refreshing and easy-to-understand book that will help both partners in a marriage feel validated and satisfied. The Leeds' message is strengthened by contributions from Terrence Real, a bestselling relationship author who has more than 20 years of experience as a family therapist.

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