Today's brides are bombarded with wedding advice that promises perfection, but urges achieving it through selfishness and showing off. Couples who are able to resist such pressure see elopement or a slapdash wedding as the only alternatives to a gaudy blowout. But none of these choices appealed to a bride who happened to be brought up by Miss Manners. Judith Martin and her newlywed daughter, Jacobina, explain how to have a dignified ceremony and celebration without succumbing to the now-prevalent pattern of the vulgar, money-draining wedding that exhausts families and exploits friends. In this revised edition, the etiquette guru covers everything from whether or not to handwrite invitations to planning a classy shower and navigating the changing terrain of proposals and engagements. Martin and her daughter have included lots of new information and the most up-to-date dos and don'ts. Sure to help allay the usual wedding anxiety, this refreshingly witty companion will serve as a reassuring guide to hosting a 'surprisingly dignified wedding.'