Name: Wired for Love
ISBN: 9781608820580

Stan Tatkin

Citing a high percentage of first marriages that end in divorce, a guide based on the author's extensive work as a family therapist incorporates cutting-edge findings in brain science and the nervous system while outlining 10 principles for managing a partner's emotional reactions and resolving conflicts lovingly. (This title was previously listed in Forecast.) Original.

How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Wired for Love

Mu-An Chiou

(Audio book)

Recommended by a friend as we talked about how “Attached” the book made both of us avoidant people felt like shit.

Practical advice and analysis. Made sense even to me, a single person who’s never been in a relationship.

This doesn’t go into special cases like people with trauma or depression, but for general cis cases, it’s applicable. This includes good pointers that you can apply and adjust as you see fit I think.

It doesn’t talk about anything about finding the right person though, only how to work with whoever you’re with, even if they might be the worst person for you. However, my friend pointed out that as long as both people are earnest in their effort to work on the relationship, they might just be right for each other.

Maria

Good book that makes good arguments and examples.

Destinee Vickers

In the age of online dating, finding a real connection can seem more daunting than ever! So, why not stack the odds of finding the right person in your favor? This book offers simple, proven-effective principles drawn from neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find the perfect mate. Everybody wants someone to love and spend time with, and searching for your ideal partner is a natural and healthy human tendency. Just about everyone dates at some point in their lives, yet few really understand what they're doing or how to get the best results. In Wired for Dating, psychologist and relationship expert Stan Tatkin—author of Wired for Love—offers powerful tips based in neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find a compatible mate and go on to create a fabulous relationship. Using real-life scenarios, you’ll learn key concepts about how people become attracted to potential partners, move toward or away from commitment, and the important role the brain and nervous system play in this process. Each chapter explores the scientific concepts of attachment theory, arousal regulation, and neuroscience. And with a little practice, you’ll learn to apply these exercises and practical techniques to your dating life. If you’re ready to get serious (or not!) about dating, meet your match, and have more fun, this book will be your guide.

Wired for Love How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship